Welcome to my first post on a momentous day for my family. Today Jeremy took the first step to determining who he rightly is. We met with a psychiatrist from the Royal Children’s Hospital, a beautifully gentle woman who listened to us talk for an hour about our past and where we are now. I say we because I tried to bow out of the conversation, but she and Jeremy wanted me to stay there and add in where I would – and boy did I add in!!!
As I listened to Jeremy talk I realised that many people in Jeremy’s life, myself included, have moved too fast in our minds onto injections and surgeries. Jeremy sees himself at the very start of a complex journey. He knows the journey is complex and impressed me and the psychiatrist with his insight, the amount of research that he has done and the expectations that he has. Jeremy may never have surgical alteration to his body, nor may he end up having hormone injections. He may end up having a combination of all or part of the options available to him. He has asked for time and help to sort out what is right for him.
Yes, my darling child, yes, you can have that in spades.
What was most telling for me was when Jeremy said that when people started using the pronoun “he” he felt comfortable. I imagined that it may have felt like putting on a favourite pair of shoes that always make you feel like a million bucks. Or maybe it felt like home.
As a parent my greatest wish is that I have happy and healthy children. Hearing today that Jeremy is at home being called “he” was all the persuasion that I needed that regardless of where the journey ends, we have made a positive start.
July 18, 2013 at 11:49 am
You are amazing Jo- that was a beautiful post.
July 18, 2013 at 11:50 am
Absolutely beautiful. Jeremy sounds like a very intelligent young man, perhaps this is to do with all the care and support from his mother.
July 18, 2013 at 2:57 pm
Your both amazing and I only wish you both lots of support and love from everyone around you both x