An appointment at the RCH today was kind of like a goalpost – is this the day that we will use to mark pre and post? Is this the day that we will look back on as the day of change?
We have been waiting and waiting for today’s appointment with J’s pediatrician to get blood tests and to discuss some options.
I learned that Jeremy may be able to have a baby. It’s not likely, but biologically he could still carry a child. The testosterone will stop his menstrual cycle and make lots of other biological changes. Some of those changes may reverse if he decides to stop testosterone. Some changes will not be reversible. Testosterone does not mean that J will have to have his ovaries and uterus removed although there are recommendation about time-frames when that can happen and what J should do if he doesn’t have surgery.
I kind of get disgruntled when I think about those who transition from male to female. In regards to considering fertility they have an option to freeze semen and that technology is well tested and collecting semen is not an invasive process. For those who transition from female to male it is a different prospect. The technology to freeze eggs is not as reliable and the process to harvest eggs is the same as for someone undergoing IVF – hormones to stimulate egg production then harvesting which is a medical procedure. So knowing that, why would you take that step?
How do you ask a 17 year old to make a decision about parenthood? This kid struggles to get dirty laundry into the machine, can he really know that he does not want to be a parent? Yet this, like so many other aspects of Jeremy’s journey,is placed into the hands of the universe.
We have nine weeks until J’s 18th birthday. It’s time to take some steps – Friday we change Jeremy’s name and gender marker on the medicare card. Then we should get his name legally changed so that his 18+ card has the right name and gender.
Jeremy’s 18th birthday is a Saturday this year. The following Tuesday he will have his first dose of testosterone. I think both days will ones to raise a glass of beautiful bubbles to toast milestones.